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Something From Nothing Leaves Greatness!

A View from Avon’s former CEO Andrea Jung–“You are about to read Avon’s “fairy tales,” except these are true stories about real women who have changed their own lives and the lives of so many others. Over the past decade, I have met and recognized these 22 women on stage many times. I have listened to their individual stories with amazement and witnessed first-hand their impact on countless others. They have personally inspired me, and so many others, to reach further and believe that with direct selling dreams can come true. Each of these extraordinary leaders has a fundamental belief in the power of sharing their successes and the responsibility that comes with serving as the company’s ultimate role models”.  Andrea Jung Executive, Chairman Avon Products Inc.

A few months ago I got my hand on a copy of the latest book from some of Avon’s elite leaders, “A View From The Top.” Inside the leaders share their stories and strategies to succeed.

I found the book to helpful and motivational. Since reading it, I’ve meet so many other leaders who are not only forthcoming, but anxious to share information and strategies to assist with my business. I’ve been adopted by one as an honorary team member, a guided spiritually by another. This book is not a step by step guide to build your business, but inspirational memoir of those who did not have, and climbed their way to the top with different levels of knowledge and education. What I’ve learned from these testimonies is that it’s possible for anyone to succeed, you just have to want it bad enough. To want it bad enough requires you to possess the will, and determination to grasp your future by throat and say, “Let’s go! You’re coming with me!” Set your eyes on the prize of what your vision of success looks like. Not now, but what it looks like once you’ve completed your drive to the top.

At the end of each chapter the author/leader’s contact information has been included. Why? To make the end of the chapter look good? To separate one story from the next. No. It’s so you can reach out and ask them for guidance. I used to think that once you arrived at this level in Avon you were untouchable. These ladies and gentleman are anything but untouchable. They instill the strength and hope that keeps us all going everyday. Especially on the days we feel like giving up.

Anyone interested in Avon for making a little extra income or searching for a new career should read this book. If you’re already a representative you should read this book. Don’t think this is not for you, because when you read between these pages, what you’ll find are men and woman who’ve been down on their luck. They’ve wondered where and when their next meal may come. They’ve been alone, and looking for a change. Something that would take them to a place of refuge in their lives. You may even find someone, who was where you are right now.

Read their amazing stories, and find encouragement to succeed within yourself. We’re all different. What may work for one, may not work for all. What you have to brand into your mind is to never, ever give up. When you reach the end of your rope, and you’ve tied a knot, and hanging on with one hand…use the other to reach out to one of these gracious leaders for help. It may be the call that you need to reach your envisioned future.

Purchase this book from Amazon, or any of the AVON Leaders inside.

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Be your best, with the best. I want to hear from you.

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Frustration & How To Cope

frus·tra·tion

     /frəˈstrāSHən

noun: frustration:  the feeling of being upset or annoyed, esp. because of inability to change or achieve something.

In our day to day lives we often come across obstacles to which we have no control. People that cause us undo stress, can also be a big headache. When that car cuts you off in traffic, and you just want to run them down and…well, I’m sure you’ve been there. I’m sure you’ve been told, ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff’, and at that moment you’d rather to take every print copy of the book of the same title and start a bonfire than take their advice. Unfortunately, that type of behavior is frowned upon, and we therefore must learn to cope.

Coping is easier said than done. I’m an ARMY veteran. I’m accustomed to giving an order to a group of people and have that order followed to the letter. What I had to come to grip with in the “real” world is people have a much different approach. You can not expect others to react to a situation in a particular way or time for that manner. You have to do what you do, and let them be who or how they will be in situations. Control what’s in your power, and the rest will fall into place. As one of my mentors said to me today, ‘Don’t focus on the negative. Even when frustrated, in the midst of negativity there are always positives. Focus on those and they’ll get your through.

I’m a work in progress so…

I’ve looked for the triggers that cause you to feel frustration. I hope this helps you on your journey to “Copenation”. (via http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-With-Frustration)

Common ones include:

  • Impatience at the speed of people, systems, or results (See How to Be Patient)
  • Slow comprehension of facts or a situation by another person
  • Lack of reliability of a person, item, or system (See How to Stop Dealing With Someone Else’s Lateness)
  • General sense of unfairness or injustice about things that are occurring in your life (See How to Be Optimistic)
  • Poor communications resulting in something not being done at all, or on time
  • Wanting things your own way without compromise

 

Think through your answers. Do any of the above situations apply to you? If so, note down why. Draw another column and suggest ways that you might address each frustration in a fruitful manner instead. For example:

 

  • “I get frustrated when the traffic crawls to halt and I am sitting in it, sweating. Counter thought: “I do hate the traffic being slow but I can avoid it by leaving earlier or later; or I can ride a bike instead.”
  • “I cannot stand the way George is so slow at understanding the point of every exercise! I’m tearing out my hair!” Counter thought: “I know that George is a slow learner but my goodness, when he grasps the concepts finally, there is no stopping him and he is often the person who points out errors as we go along, helping us to avoid greater problems at the end of the project. I need to be patient with him and remember that he has this latent skill.”
  • “Jenny never turns up on time. It’s as if she is deliberately trying to ruin every occasion I spend with her!” Counter-thought: “Jenny has a problem with punctuality. It’s not my problem unless I make it one. Instead, I need to either make her arrive on time by suggesting she arrive at a time half an hour earlier than the real time set, or I just need to get on with enjoying myself until she does arrive, in the full knowledge that that is her way.”
  • “Everything is so unfair! Even the weather is against me making my hair all lank and horrible. The people on the street are deliberately bumping into me. The taxi was late and I was late going into the meeting as a result. The whole world is against me!” Counter thought: “It’s just one of those days where things happen over which I have little control. All the same, next time I will book my taxi for half an hour earlier to make time for possible delays. And as for my hair, it is probably time to see the hair stylist anyway!”

2.  Breathe deeply and count when you feel a bout of frustration coming on. This is a good opportunity to create your reaction rather than to react and create your frustration. One deep breath, followed by a slow count to ten, during which time you let your thoughts go. Return to reality and consider the situation before you carefully and with a reality check. Ask yourself:

  • Are things really as I perceive them?
  • What sort of reaction can I give that will properly express my concern, my annoyance, my wishes?
  • What good and positive words can I use to express the need for seeing things my way too?
  • Am I seeing things in other people’s way too?

 

 

3.  Remember that frustration is born of wanting things or people to be a certain way that is fixed in your head. Your expectations of others and of how the world works is formed over many years of experiences and sometimes your personal overlay is defective; it might have been a source of self-protection once but when it continues to advise you poorly for future experiences, then it is stuck in time, and generally plain wrong. When you cease to expect other people to act in a certain way, when you start to look at the world with fresh eyes again and expect nothing apart from the fact that you are a member of a community of individuals and a world of many happenings, then you start to realize that things happen, people are the way that they are, and most importantly of all, how you        react matters. For example:

Let’s say that somebody yells at you for accidentally standing on the street, as you intend to cross the road at the same time that they’re coming around. There is no real fault here. You thought the road was clear, the driver did too. Neither of you had malicious intent. To take offense at the driver’s fear of running you over is to place an interpretation on this event that isn’t there; instead, accept that the driver was scared they’d hurt you (and that’s a good intent) and that your piece in the action was equal. Simply apologize, acknowledge your own scare in the situation, and move on.

 

4. Practice talking back to yourself every time that frustration arises. It takes a long time to overcome what has become essentially a very comforting but demoralizing habit. While it might feel justified to feel a sense of outrage, persecution, and insult, where do those types of self-pitying feelings ultimately lead you? They lead to personal stagnation and a victimhood type mentality that prevents you from growing as a human being and from experiencing what the whole world truly has to offer. Don’t give up on letting go the grip of frustration; it will take time but it will happen if you put in a concerted effort to change your perspective.

The Only Disability In Life Is A Bad Attitude

bad attitideWe’ve all had bad days. Some more than others, but to quote Matthew Jeffers, ‘At the end of the day, life is simply unfair.”

What we must remember is, it’s not only unfair for one; it is unfair for all. Life does not discriminate. It is not color-blind. It doesn’t judge by what you have and what you don’t have. It simply is—life. As we go through life feeling sorry for ourselves because we didn’t complete a task, or we didn’t achieve one goal or another, we must take into consideration and ask ourselves, “Did I allow myself to fail?” “Did I convince myself, that what I really wanted wasn’t possible? “Did the fear of success, frighten me to limit of stopping me in my tracks.”

I’m here to tell you the answer to all of these questions are—yes. We have to power to raise ourselves up and beyond what we perceive to be success, but we also have the power create our own failure. We have the potential to do whatever we please, but be careful when using that word, “POTENTIAL.” A wise person once told me, ‘We have to be careful about our use of the word potential. Because it can go either way.”

Now if you’re like me, you’ve always thought when someone has potential that’s a positive thing. It’s a driving force! Well, it is. The question is, where will that potential drive you? If you possess the potential to do great things, and you believe it, it’ll drive you to the mountain tops of success. However, if you possess the potential to fail, then success will not be in your future simply because you lack the ability to see it. Failure to see the “BIG PICTURE’ can be damaging to your future. Our attitude towards our failures, an disappointments in life shape how we will continue, if we continue.

Now folks don’t think I’m talking to you from atop my high horse, because I’ve been that failed potential. I’ve also been that potential of success and succeeded to great things. I honestly think that in life we must experience both to take in the big picture of what’s important to us. What pulls on our emotional compass and directs us to whom we shall become. Greatness is in us all. It is only for us to discovery it, nourish it, and nurture it into the dreams that we hold dear. A change in our attitude, could be the very essence that big change in our life. It is up to us to find our emotional compass, and…DRIVE IT LIKE WE STOLE IT!

Sniper Elite: One-Way Trip Scott McEwen, Author

clip_image001IN DIRECT DEFIANCE of the president’s orders, Navy Master Chief Gil Shannon, one of America’s most lethal SEAL snipers, launches a bold mission comprised of SEAL Team Six and Delta Force fighters to free a captured female helicopter pilot being held by Taliban insurgents in Afghanistan.

The president is afraid a botched rescue could jeopardize US foreign policy as well as end his presidency. But once the special ops community learns that one of their own—the first female helicopter pilot of the Army’s elite 160th Special Operations Aviation Regiment (SOAR)—is being held and brutally mistreated, there is no executive order strong enough to stop them from attempting to rescue her.

This fast-paced, action-packed thriller with incredibly realistic and blistering battles introduces a new American hero, Gil Shannon, whose iron will and expertise with the .308 Remington Modular sniper rifle will spell the difference between freedom and an ignoble death for America’s female POW.

Sniper Elite is a wonderfully written military suspense novel. So much so, it had me longing for the days of my own military career. A military story without a doubt, but definitely written for even a person of nonmilitary background could enjoy as well. Filled with much intense action and, and high energy, I found it hard to believe that this book was mostly fiction, with a splash of actual special op missions. McEwen brings you into the real world of war.

Master Chief Gil Shannon is a REAL military man. One who lives, breathes and bleed, for each tour of duty and service. As hardcore as he may be, there is still a human core to this man, Shown by the love he expresses to his wife Marie.

While providing support during a black ops mission to observe a military training exercise in Afghanistan, their group is attacked by terrorists. Warrant Officer Sandra Brux, the first female pilot to serve in the elite Night Stalkers, is captured Sandra. The only survivor of the attach, she is taken prisoner and held at a secret location. A ransom is demanded for her release, but Brux is featured being brutally tortured, in a video sent to the government to receive a hasty payment.

The decision is delayed by considerations of how it will affect the upcoming re-election. If the public discovers the gender, and service record of the capture soldier, there could be backlash as to why there was a delay in her rescue. During the process of waiting for the President and his advisors to make a decision.

Shannon as had enough waiting, and pairs together with an Afghani translator assigned to the U.S. to roll out a rescue mission, combining a secret team of SEAL and DELTA Operatives. With a heartfelt call to his wife to make her understand this may be a one-way mission, Shannon sets out on a mission that without government support, may mean death for everyone on the team.

This was an awesome read, written so well that it takes you into the situations faced everyday by our military and special forces teams. Some of which may never be known by the public sector. For the love of country, and brotherhood of the individuals that serve by your side, decisions are made an carried out sometimes without the support that should be given to these brave souls. Thank you Scott McEwen for understanding, and painting a picture of truth with your words.

From the coauthor of the #1 New York Times bestselling American Sniper, this “inspired by true events” thriller follows one of America’s most lethal snipers as he leads the rescue of a downed female Special Ops pilot.

clip_image003Scott McEwen (1961- )is a trial attorney in San Diego, California. He grew up in the mountains of Eastern Oregon where he became an Eagle Scout; hiking, fishing, and hunting at every opportunity presented. He obtained his undergraduate degree in Oregon and thereafter studied and worked extensively in London, England. Scott works with and provides support for several military charitable organizations, including the Seal Team Foundation.

Scott’s interest in military history, intense patriotism, and experience with long-range hunting rifles, compelled him to accurately record the battlefield experiences of Chris Kyle, the most lethal sniper in United States military history.

Review: Out of the Blue: A Book of Color Idioms and Silly Pictures by Vanita Oelschlager

Out of the blue Hardcover, 40 pages
Published May 1st 2012 by VanitaBooks LLC

ISBN 0983290423 (ISBN13: 9780983290421)

Out of the Blue shows children the magic of idioms – words that separately have one meaning, but together take on something entirely different.
Children are curious about words, especially phrases that make them laugh (“Tickled Pink”), sound silly (“Shrinking Violet”) or trigger images that tickle a child’s sense of the absurd (“A Red Letter Day”).
Out of the Blue uses outlandish illustrations of what the words describe literally. The reader then has to guess the “real” meaning of the phrases (which are upside down in the corners of each spread). At the end of the book, the reader is invited to learn more about these figures of speech.

The first book of idioms, Birds of a Feather (2009), dealt with birds, insects or animals. The second, Life is a Bowl Full of Cherries (2011) uses food idioms. Out of the Blue uses color idioms. All three are fun – and instructive.

What a great idea for a children’s book! My daughter is only two and a half, but for an older child who questions everything and has heard a few of these familiar idioms, it’s a fun way to explain them. Out of the Blue is wonderfully illustrated, with a lot of silly pictures. Even as an adult I giggled a little. Even though my daughter isn’t old enough to understand the idioms, this book is a great teaching aid for moms. With my little one I found the book can also be used to teach children about colors, animals, and even counting.

I absolutely love this book! This is one for the family library. I plan on checking out Birds of a Feather, and Life is a Bowl Full of Cherries well. Great end of summer reads to get those little minds geared up for school.

Review: A Tale of Two Mommies, by Vanita Oelschlager

tale of two mommiesMike Blanc (Illustrator)

A Tale of Two Mommies is a beach conversation among three children. One boy asks another boy about having two mommies. A young girl listening in asks some questions too.
True to a child’s curiosity, practical questions follow. “Which mom is there when you want to go fishing? / Which mom helps out when Kitty goes missing?” To which he answers: “Mommy helps when I want to go fishing. / Both Mommies help when Kitty goes missing.”

 

A Tale of Two Mommies is intended for 4-8 year olds.
This book lets us look inside one non-traditional family, a same sex couple and their son. As the children talk, it’s clear this boy lives in a nurturing environment where the biggest issues are the everyday challenges of growing up.

Children talk. They ask questions. Especially about what’s different or unfamiliar. Answers are always honest and from the heart. Vanita Oelschlager does a great job in A Tale of Two Mommies displaying a child’s point of view of having same sex parents and the differences. The differences to the child? No more than any other child and a parent. All that matters is someone is there when they have a bad dream, someone is there to teach them that manners are an important quality to have in life, that someone is there when they have a bad day to listen and make it all better. It’s not important which parent kisses the boo-boo,  as long as it’s kissed. Responsibilities aren’t different just because there’s no mommy and daddy, cause mommy has it under control. Most of all what’s important to a same sex parented child…that they are loved—unconditionally and often.

The book expresses the ease of this acceptance from one child to another. The love the child has makes any question easy to answer and once the answer is given, curiosity has been fed and life is good—or that’s how most children see it.

A  wonderful story accompanied by bright and beautiful artwork. Great for those inquisitive children and parents who are searching for a way to explain why Janie or Johnny has two daddies or mommies.

Review: Simple Skincare, Beautiful Skin : A Back-to-Basics Approach

ISBN: 1608323838

EAN: 9781608323838

Category: Health & Fitness / General

Publisher: Greenleaf Book Group

Consumers are regularly confronted with advertisements and recommendations for a dizzying array of skincare products, not to mention conflicting messages about which skincare practices are the most beneficial. Simple Skincare, Beautiful Skin, a collection of Dr. Ahmed Abdullah’s most effective advice, empowers you with scientifically proven skincare facts presented in an easy-to-understand manner. Armed with information about the best skincare techniques, you’ll be capable of making smart choices about the products you use and the practices you employ to keep your skin looking its best.

As an independent cosmetics representative, I’m always searching for tips to pass on to my clients regarding skincare. It’s one of their top beauty concerns. Healthy skin should be a concern to us all.

Dr. Abdullah’s Simple Skincare, Beautiful Skin : A Back-to-Basics Approach, teaching skin care methods at a level that can be understood by anyone. I’m not a plastic surgeon, cosmetic surgeon, dermatologist or any other type of doctor, but I understand this book without an issues.

From his explanation of taking your skin care from day to night, and explaining it layer by layer, to informing us of what we should and should not place on our skin—Who knew aloe was something I needed in my arsenal?—I found this book to be not only jam packed with information that I will use in the future, but will also share with my clients and anyone else who has a skincare concern. If you’re interested in solving your skin issues, I’d suggest grabbing this book, and reading it thoroughly. I’m heading out to get my aloe right now.

Ahmed AbdullahDr. Ahmed Abdullah is a board-certified plastic and cosmetic surgeon actively practicing in the United States and Dubai, and a recognized expert on the restorative and medicinal effects of aloe vera. Additionally, he is an associate clinical professor in plastic surgery at the University of North Dakota School of Medicine, and founder/formulator of the Lexli® line of aloe-based professional skincare.
Despite his expertise in plastic surgery, Dr. Abdullah has proven that many common skin concerns can be avoided by optimizing skin health. His research has shown that the use of pharmaceutical-grade aloe vera is a beneficial tool in that effort. Thus, Dr. Abdullah travels the world educating licensed skincare professionals and consumers alike about the proper ways to utilize aloe in skincare applications, the essential steps to ensuring the skin’s basic needs are met, and setting the record straight on prevalent skincare myths.